GOOD PERSONALITY – NEED OF THE HOUR

A tall body frame, a fair complexion, an hourglass figure and sprucely chiseled features – do these imply of possessing a good personality? Not entirely. A good personality cannot comprise of just the external appearance. Beauty is a single petal of the personality rose. It’s just an icing over the cake. We often hear people opining that a good personality is a boon straight from the heavens. But here they seem to compliment only the physical characteristics gifted to a person by the almighty. Actually the term ‘personality’ has a much profound significance. It is your real being assembled with various positive and negative traits.

In the external area of personality, neatness is an utmost important feature. Unkempt hair, broken nails, chipped off nail polish, crumpled clothes and absence of hygiene can do away with your beauty in a jiffy. On the contrary, a person having mediocre looks can appear much presentable if she/he is meticulous of such neatness. Be it within the four walls of your cocoon or in the outer world, tidiness helps you earn a special place in every heart.

Then adding up to it is your style. The gait with which you carry yourself despite of either an overbuilt or a lean body frame helps to enhance your personality. Tall bodies walking with short graceful steps will help them appear elegant and the shorter folks using long strides may display confidence despite of their short stature.

Sitting tall and straight without slouching is the next mandatory feature in the list of a good personality. Women sitting with their legs crossed at the ankles and men sitting with their legs crossed at their knees not only look elegant but also display a good body language – and a good body language forms an integral part of a good personality.

Adopting only those fashions, which suit one’s distinctive characteristics, is highly recommended. Blindly following the existing trend in a craving to be termed as ‘modern’ can become a cause for your ridicule. This is applicable in the selection of footwear too. Avoid sporting a heel, which on dance floor can’t reel. Therefore comfort is a key to a good personality. Many people doll up only during occasions. But a bit of regular grooming not only makes one look good but also feel good.

Next is a presentable speech. Not all are blessed with a melodious voice. But one can cultivate the habit of speaking in a soft gentle tone to camouflage the gruffness, if any, in the voice. A good voice modulation, clarity in speech and speaking with a proper pace can be achieved with some practice. To listen to good speakers is really music to the ears. Such people also have an added advantage in telephonic conversations. The chances of them sounding rude are always dim. During conversations it’s always good to respond with pleasant facial expressions and gentle nods. Unnecessary gestures and head movements could make one appear loud and therefore repulsive. Wearing a pleasant smile on your lips and maintaining a proper eye contact during a dialogue can speak volumes about your confidence.

Reading of good books is the next step towards having a good personality. Voracious readers always steal the cake during any conversation as they largely contribute to every topic in discussions. But one mustn’t forget that being a good listener is an appreciable quality too. Avoid interrupting others when they are communicating and if the error does occur, an apology should be close at hand. Be interested in what others speak. Cultivate the habit of complimenting and appreciating others whole-heartedly at every opportunity. Be witty, clever, jovial and humorous but avoid jests at the expense of others.

Being sensitive towards people’s problems can be placed on a very high pedestal in the pyramid of personality. It’s a noble gesture to lend an ear to the lesser fortunate souls. After all aren’t we all here to spread the message of humanity? This not only blossoms one’s own personality but also creates a positive aura around. A famous quote rightly implies, “Handsome is As Handsome Does”.

Confidence is another significant fringe in one’s personality. Be confident in all your undertakings. A confident person exudes pleasant vibes and is selfless as he hasn’t any insecurities in mind. Such a person is free of sarcasm, envy and revenge. Optimism should remain your greatest motto and it’s wise to avoid being rueful over any painful past. Accepting responsibilities and being trustworthy, polishes your personality further.

If possible, one must try to be economically independent as it makes you feel important and self- reliant. It is diabolical to indulge in gossips, backbiting and dishonesty as they can mar the best of personality. Being happy, cheerful, amicable and helpful are a few more positive traits of a good personality. Discipline and punctuality are two valuable gems in the crown of personality.

It wouldn’t be an exaggeration to state that people in every profession today need to have a good personality. Not just an actor or a model but a receptionist behind a counter, a boss in his cabin, a doctor in his clinic a lecturer in the classroom or a salesperson in a mall are all required to have good personalities. Undoubtedly each one carves a name for himself in his profession through his intellect and hard work. But if they sprinkle the good personality spices over their beings too, they will endear themselves further. If one feigns of having a good personality through artificial mannerisms, the act will be ephemeral. So it’s best to imbibe all the above-mentioned traits naturally and bit by bit till they blend with one’s original personality. All these qualities are the beautiful flowers, which can bloom within each one of us. So let’s weave into a bouquet of a good personality and present it to the world.

Shilpa Kher
shilpakher@gmail.com